This episode was inspired by a recent post I made on Facebook about real, deep body love and acceptance. The responses to the post inspired me to being writing a piece around it during a writing workshop I attended recently in Mexico. And then, days after I'd made the post, as women were still chiming in, I realized this conversation is only just beginning. There is a lot to unpack and explore here. It's tender and personal, but also shared because we've all grown up in this culture with it's heinous messaging about and towards women and their bodies. If you are someone with a history of body issues or disordered eating, please check in with yourself first before you listen as it could be triggering. And if you'd like to add to the conversation, visit the show notes page to chime in on the Facebook thread or email us directly at email@example.com. Lots of love on this one. xo, E
Today's episode is so fun. Our guest, Jordan Harbinger, is the host of one of the top all time podcasts on iTunes, so he's interviewed hundreds of people. He also went to law school and began his career working on Wall Street, so he has a wide array of perspectives to share and I let my curiosity take us to a lot of different places during this chat. We talked about toxic relationships, self-judgment, how to prioritize your life and sanity, and we explored some "soft skills" and the stories behind how Jordan developed them earlier in his career. We also got into self-awareness, the money value of time (took us back to microeconomics in college!), identity, and keeping score in relationships. There are lots of stories and examples in this one, enjoy and share!
About Jordan Harbinger:
Jordan Harbinger is a Wall Street lawyer turned talk show host, social dynamics expert, and entrepreneur.
He’s the owner and co-founder of The Art of Charm, a consulting & coaching company – as well as a top 50 podcast on iTunes – which he’s been hosting for over a decade.
Jordan’s company, The Art of Charm, holds boot camps and training sessions companies and individuals that want to learn the elements of emotional intelligence to become more persuasive, confident and charismatic.
The Art of Charm receives over 2,500,000 downloads per month and growing.
Jordan’s business sense, extensive knowledge of the industry and contemporary approach to teaching make him one of the best and most sought-after coaches in the world.
Jordan Harbinger has always had an affinity for Social Influence, Interpersonal Dynamics and Social Engineering, helping private companies test the security of their communications systems and working with law enforcement agencies before he was even old enough to drive.
Jordan has spent several years abroad in Europe and the developing world, including South America, Eastern Europe and the Middle East, and speaks several languages. He has also worked for various governments and NGOs overseas, traveled through war-zones and been kidnapped -twice. He’ll tell you; the only reason he’s still alive and kicking is because of his ability to talk his way into (and out of), just about any type of situation.
In this episode, Jordan shares:
1. Any problem that can be solved with money is not that big of a problem - what that really means
2. Degrees of giving
3. If you can't see yourself, you can't free yourself
Going into 2017 I knew it was going to be a year focused on healing.
I didn’t know it was going to be a year of embracing my mystical nature.
I’d been intrigued by the idea of mysticism for the last few years. Had even picked up a book called The Essential Mystics, Poets, Saints and Sages: A Wisdom Treasury on a road trip in Ashland Oregon the Summer of 2015. But for some reason I was waiting to dive in. Last year I finally took the plunge.
Today's episode explores some of that exploration. Enjoy!
Today's episode probably isn't as big of a deal as it feels like to me. Or maybe it is. I don't know. What I do know and have known for a while is that change was called for, so I surrendered. I'd been feeling the momentum of inevitability behind me for the last five or so months, like a force of miraculous grace. I took my time, listened, and applied deeper trust than I've had to on any decision in my career to date.
It's been the kind of transition where you question your sanity, because you're about to throw a wrench in something that works really well. I don't really know what to expect, but I know what I sense in my bones is coming and I've got to believe I'm ready for it, or it wouldn't be happening now.
I officially decided to change the name of the show in the beginning of December. Because I'd recorded several episodes with the old name, I had to wait until today, 1/22 to make the announcement. And of course, because divine timing is always happening, it worked out that I got the extra little boost of faith I needed when Oprah blessed us with this sentence at the 2018 Golden Globes, "What I know for sure is that speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we all have."
So, welcome to the new evolution of the podcast - Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto. Have a listen to the episode to ring it in, and to hear a bit more about why, what this means for the show moving forward, and some other creations in the works for 2018. To our listeners, guests, and my team and teachers, I love you. Thank you so much. This is the epitome of co-creation, as not a single moment of the show would be possible without tremendous collaborative effort. <3
When I sat down to record this it was the Sunday night the week before it goes live. I realized as I began that it was the final episode under the original name of the podcast - Untame the Wild Soul. So I thought it would be apropos to dedicate the episode to one way of knowing when it’s time to move on from something. Even when the something is really good, excellent even.
And in fact how sometimes because something is excellent is exactly why we have to move on from it. Enjoy and be sure to tune into the next episode to learn the new name of the show! xo, E
Today's episode goes really deep and gets really esoteric in some parts, (which I love, but I know is not for everyone!). As always, I'm never looking to convince or convert anyone to any belief system, so listen to this one with an open mind and enjoy what resonates for you or piques your curiosity.
Our guest, Jill Prescott and I got into the correlation between keeping secrets and oppression, how the Law of Attraction can create shame and pain rather than abundance and why that is, and how language can create violence or healing. We also talked about the distinctions between awareness, consciousness, emotional intelligence and knowledge and even had time to touch on ascension. It's so juicy, I can't wait to hear what comes up for you. Enjoy!
About Jill Prescott:
Jill Prescott is a Spiritual BadAss. She has both feet planted firmly on this earth and in this life while remaining connected to Source Energy through the practices of meditation and intuition. She believes we are all creators, capable of moving through this life with grace and Love, and that our painful experiences can be our greatest gifts when you do the work.
She is an international speaker and facilitator, published author, and intuitive oracle. As a true Leo Fire Sign, she seeks many outlets for her gifts and finds much joy in offering guidance in a multitude of ways.
Jill has gone through the fire, willingly and otherwise, many time in her years so far this lifetime. This has brought her to a place of deep regard for the sacredness of the spiritual path and infuses this reverence into all she does. On her own, and with her partner Chris Dube, she regularly instigates conversations via video and the written word on topics related to navigating this life as a soul in human form.
Jill believes that each of us is powerful and deeply loved. She is here to bear witness to your personal evolution.
In this episode, Jill shares:
1. Knowing everything is temporary but the soul is permanent
2. Language as a tool for expression that creates how we occur in the world
3. Connecting to our humanity through compassion for others
Our topic today has to do with that last sentence of the intro to these Sunday sermons, about remembering that you are made from love, you are love, and you are loved. I get a lot of notes from people telling me how much they love hearing that every week, that they need the reminder, that the truth of this feels so nourishing, that even when the head wants to object, the heart knows it’s the truth.
So I was thinking about this the other morning at the time of this recording and I had a little epiphany about choosing love over fear. This is something you may have heard before, in some context or another, to choose love over fear. It’s a fairly common cornerstone of lots of ancient teachings, wisdom traditions, and faiths. And while it sounds so beautiful, and like it should totally work, just choose love over fear…right….got it.
It’s much easier to say than do. Listen in for my thoughts on how to actually do this in a way that works for us and honors who we each are, and how we're each designed.
Today's guest, Mary Shores is a fan of the show so it was super fun to dive in with her around her favorite episode (Michaela Boehm way back in the first 25 episodes!) before getting into what she does. We explored how important it is to always know your outcomes, why positivity is not "everything," steps to breaking through during breakdowns, and eliminating procrastination. We also talked about affirmations, the impact lying has on your brain and debunked a few confusing spiritual concepts. Enjoy and share!
About Mary Shores:
Mary Shores has been recognized as a leader of innovative thought and has been hailed as a “revolutionary thinker.” Mary has spent over a decade teaching businesses and individuals how to inspire others, create new ways of thinking, identify their goals, and take action to create meaningful results. After coming from humble beginnings and experiencing devastating tragedy, Mary overcame adversity to become the youngest owner of a business in her industry; an agency that prides itself on empowering consumers. Mary’s business has garnered over $40 million to date, and her success is still growing. She is the creator of the groundbreaking Communication Code system, which helped businesses reach success through thoughtful communication. This system inspired the creation of Conscious Communications.
Mary travels nationally to lecture and teach courses that help individuals implement new ways of thinking so that they can take small steps toward making more conscious and impactful decisions. Her dynamic and practical teaching style inspires all who listen by incorporating science, ancient wisdom, and personal experience into easy-to-understand lessons and exercises. Mary has been featured on international radio and television shows, podcasts, and blogs. Her influential book Conscious Communications was released by Hay House on August 22 of 2017 and has already garnered acclaim with endorsements from bestsellers including Mike Dooley, Sonia Choquette, and more.
Since launching her brand less than a year ago, Mary has already accrued over 15,000 fans and subscribers, and her following continues to grow rapidly. Mary seeks to make an impact on the collective consciousness that will inspire individuals to live to their fullest potential. When Mary is not hosting retreats, speaking to crowds, on Facebook Live, or writing blog posts, she is with her two teenage sons in Central Illinois. To get involved in Mary’s movement, sign up for her Fearless Ambition newsletter at maryshores.com.
In this episode, Mary shares:
1. Changing a possibility into a probability
2. The science of gratitude
3. The impact naming/labeling a problem has on the problem solving center of the brain
Over Christmas time I was home with my family on the east coast and we got really excited to go see the new Mary Poppins movie coming out on Christmas Day. When I was little Mary Poppins was my absolute favorite movie. For four days we were looking forward to it. When we went to look up movie times on December 26, we realized that it wasn’t coming out until Christmas Day 2018!!
With Mary Poppins on my brain, I wanted to do a fun Sunday Sermon on some of my favorite lessons from the movie. I had three in mind, and when I went searching for the exact quotes to support them, an unexpected fourth popped up, too. Enjoy and share! xo
I'm so excited to kick off 2018 with a dynamic and fascinating conversation. Today's guest, Kaila Prins is a multi-passionate, creative entrepreneur whose list of skills range from burlesque performance and podcasting to copywriting and needle felting. We talked a lot about performance and all the things it helped her to reclaim and discovery after recovering from an eating disorder. We got into navigating life as a busy person with a lot of commitments, comedic relief, problematic comedy, and many many ways we can do less harm. This was a really fun one. Enjoy!
About Kaila Prins:
Kaila Prins is a body positive wellness coach focusing on recovery and health at every size.
After recovering from anorexia, orthorexia, and exercise addiction, Kaila started her blog and a companion podcast called “Finding Our Hunger” to help others improve their relationships with their bodies and begin the journey toward body acceptance and recovery.
Kaila received a health coaching certification from the Institute of Integrative Nutrition.
She currently writes for Everyday Feminism on body image and is a member of the Everyday Feminism Speakers Bureau.
She has been published, quoted, and/or profiled in The Washington Post, The Guardian, Fitness
Magazine, Elle Magazine, xoJane, Psychology Today, Proud2BeMe, Greatist, Quartz, MSN.com, Healthline, Broadly, Claudia (Brazil), Klikk (Norway), and more.
She currently lives in San Jose, CA and travels around the country and the world to promote body
positivity and recovery.
In this episode, Kaila shares:
1. Identity economics
2. Reclaiming the "gaze" as a performer
3. Asking questions of people you don't agree with
I’m recording this Sermon with two hopes:
1) To bring life to single women everywhere who can relate to what I’m about to share and maybe even need to hear some or all of it.
2) As a tool for connection and understanding that single women can share with each other and loved ones to say something like, "Hey, this describes how I feel in so many ways, I’d love for you to listen to it and if you want we can even discuss it."
These are a few ways we can create the world we want to live in: to find opportunities to see each other in deeper, truer ways, and question our programming, expectations and needs to be right about how things should be.
Enjoy and share, share, share!
Kimberly Ann Johnson is back today. She's the author of The Fourth Trimester: A Postpartum Guide to Healing Your Body, Balancing Your Emotions, and Restoring Your Vitality. She joined us earlier this year and talked about pregnancy, birth, postpartum recovery and sex. Today we spent our time on motherhood, mothering, and identity. I'll warn you - Kimberly and I are both really curious and really comfortable talking about uncomfortable things and we went for it in this conversation.
We explored discovering the mother you are, how to be with your timeline and your kid's timeline, relationships among mothers, being a single parent, self care vs community care, expectations on mothers and expectations held by mothers, and the differences and similarities between birthing a book and birthing a human. We also go into some trauma theory, unshaming responses, and what happened when her #metoo video went viral on Facebook.
About Kimberly Ann Johnson:
Kimberly Ann Johnson is a Somatic Experiencing trauma resolution practitioner, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, doula, postpartum care advocate and single mom. She works at the intersection of birth, sex, and trauma, specializing in birth injuries, birth trauma, and sexual healing. She leads women through a bottom up She is the author of the upcoming book The Fourth Trimester: A New Mother’s Guide to Healing Your Body, Balancing Your Emotions, and Restoring Your Vitality to be published by Shambhala Press this Fall. She leads small groups of women on intimate dives to get the sexual education they never got and claim full sexual expression.
In this episode, Kimberly shares:
1. Mother - Daughter wisdom
2. How perfectionism shows up in family relationships
3. Asking "what works" instead of clinging to ideals
I’m calling this Sermon “Real, Kind Progress” because I want to take two mindsets that are pervasive and detrimental in our culture and offer you an alternative. Those two mindsets are the all or nothing mentality and perfectionism.
In her book Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life, Anne Lamott speaks about perfectionism:
“Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people. It will keep you cramped and insane your whole life, and it is the main obstacle between you and a shitty first draft. I think perfectionism is based on the obsessive belief that if you run carefully enough, hitting each stepping-stone just right, you won't have to die. The truth is that you will die anyway and that a lot of people who aren't even looking at their feet are going to do a whole lot better than you, and have a lot more fun while they're doing it.”
? Anne Lamott
So today we're going to unpack these mindsets and explore kinder, gentler and still very effective ways to move and be moved towards progress.
Today's interview is a long time coming, our guest is Tara Mohr and she is all about Playing Big, which of course, we love! During our chat we got into being of service, the ego vs the soul, how we play small and how we can play big instead, and we spent some extra time on playing big in motherhood specifically. We talked about the difference between fear an intuition, a question I get a lot, and we wrapped up with creative expression and how to be discerning with our words so we don't "kill things."
About Tara Mohr :
Tara Mohr is an expert on women’s leadership and well-being. She helps women play bigger in sharing their voices and bringing forward their ideas in work and in life. Tara is the author of Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead, named a best book of the year by Apple’s iBooks and now in paperback. In the book, she shares her pioneering model for making the journey from playing small–being held back by fear and self-doubt–to playing big, taking bold action to pursue what you see as your callings. Tara is the creator of the Playing Big leadership program for women, which now has more than 1,500 graduates from around the world, and creator of the global Playing Big Facilitators Training for coaches, therapists, leadership development professionals and other practitioners supporting women in their personal and professional growth. A Coaches Training Institute-certified coach with an MBA from Stanford University and an undergraduate degree in English literature from Yale, Tara takes a unique approach that blends inner work and practical skills training. Her work has been featured on national media from the New York Times to Today Show to Harvard Business Review, and has captivated women from all walks of life.
In this episode, Tara shares:
1. The surprising biggest challenge of playing big within motherhood
2. How coming from service can be a game changer
3. The effects of giving words to things
Since 2010 the month of December has been a month of big decisions and massive change and transition for me. I don’t know if it has to do with where Gemini and Sagittarius fall in my astrological chart, the momentum of an impending New Year or what. Now that I practice more surrender and trust in life, am way more accepting of what is, have very little need to control or manipulate anything, and have cultivated deeper patience than I ever thought I was capable, instead of ripping through my life like a hurricane, these decisions, changes and transitions are like a sacred unfolding, orchestrated by the divine, working with and through me.
This year December has been all about two things.
Emotional Freedom and coming out of hiding. It's these two things that had me ruminating on the relationship between harm and healing - so that's what today's Sunday Sermon is all about.
Enjoy and share!
Andrea Owen returned to the show today and she has a new book out called How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness. What I love about Andrea is that she is so good at focusing on the basics that people really need to master before they move onto more “advanced teachings” – because guess what? The advanced stuff doesn’t matter if you don’t have the basics down!! So we talked about how to fast track your self-awareness because it has to come before knowledge to be effective. We got into numbing and isolation – something so many of us can relate to, specifically how to spot the ways that seem normal, go under the radar, and how we do it so much because modern living is very conducive to both. We covered doing friendship as an adult, especially a growth-oriented adult, real, deep listening, shame, triggers, and feelings. So many juicy things, enjoy, share, and let me know what you think!
About Andrea Owen:
Andrea Owen is an author, mentor, and certified life coach who helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation and choosing courage and confidence instead. She has helped thousands of women manage their inner-critic to create loving connections and live their most kick-ass life.
She is the proud author of 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve, (Adams Media/Simon & Schuster). Her second book: How To Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back From Happiness is due out in January 2, 2018 (Seal Press/Hachette Books).
When she’s not juggling her full coaching practice or hosting retreats, Andrea is busy competing in triathlons, chasing her 10-year-old son and 8-year-old daughter or making out with her husband, Jason. She is also a retired roller derby player having skated under the name “Veronica Vain”.
In this episode, Andrea shares:
1. “Unwanted identity”
2. Small gestures of kindness and presence
3. What to do when you don’t know what you need
This Sunday's Sermon is a case for starting before you're ready. In the episode I speak most specifically about creative projects, using my first book as an example. Truly, this can apply to anything though. Something I say a lot is that we're never ready - which also means that we're always ready. Readiness is something I believe people put a little too much weight on. If there is a spark, a desire, something you know you must do, be, create, taste, experience, or even just try (sorry Yoda, I believe in trying, deal with it!)...I say go for it. We just never know what's on the other side of giving things a shot.
Enjoy the episode and let me know what one thing is that you've been not doing that you just might move forward on after listening!!
Since our first interview back in February 2016, today's guest has become one of my closest friends. What I love about Rachael Maddox is that her intelligence, rigor, and commitment to trauma resolution work runs as deep and wide as her passion, power, and capacity to hold space for it. She is one of the people I trust most in the world with the intimate details of my own healing, and a person who I learn from constantly.
In this interview we talk about what it feels like to be on the other side of trauma in sex, and that YES, it is totally possible to heal from sexual trauma. We talk a lot about needs, connecting to your needs, asking for them, and honoring yourself and others around getting them met. We explored anger not being bad, safe love and intimate belonging, and what needs to be reclaimed to get to a place of healthy and safe sex after trauma.
As always when trauma is involved in the conversation, please take care of yourself, pause the interview at any point if you need to and come back when you're ready. If it resonates for you, listen more than once, and if you need anything, you can contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org
About Rachael Maddox:
Rachael Maddox is a trauma resolution educator, coach and guide who’s helped hundreds of women and men resolve their sexual trauma and reclaim their pleasure, power and wholeness.
In her first book, SECRET BAD GIRL, Rachael tells the story of her return to wildness, sensuality, health and embodied safety after a decade living under the trauma spell.
Her next book, SEX AFTER TRAUMA, publishes fall 2018, and is written to help people navigate life between the sheets after they’ve been through the worst of it.
On a fierce mission to help as many women as possible who’ve experienced trauma, Rachael offers one-on-one support, groups, articles and courses for women who are ready to dance hard with life.
If you’re new to Rachael or the territory of trauma resolution, check out this free 8-part video series, Becoming a Grown Goddess, that covers Trauma 101, Boundaries & Belonging, Sex After Trauma, and more!
Rachael’s professional training includes Alchemical Alignment Trauma Resolution & Embodiment of Spirit, The Coaches Training Institute and The Awakened Leadership Academy.
In this episode, Rachael shares:
1. Social MVPs
2. Living your way into the answers
3. The relationship between longing, yearning, and desire
Today’s sermon is inspired by Brene Brown’s most recent book, Braving the Wilderness. There’s a whole chapter called Speak Truth to Bullshit. Be Civil. Last week we got into the speak truth to bullshit part, if you haven’t listened to that episode, I do recommend pausing this one and listening to that first. It’s episode #212 and you can find it at untameyourself.com/episode-212 or whatever player you listen to podcasts on.
If you’re all caught up and ready to dive into being civil, like last week, I’ll read a good bit from the book, and chime in with my own reflections and experiences. And you’ll be able to tell I’m really geeking out on this because courageous communication is one of my favorite topics. I have seen so much healing and transformation happen in my life when people learn how to speak to each other, say what they mean, be brave about it and not cause harm with their words. Enjoy this episode and share with anyone you know who would appreciate it, too! xo
I love this interview so much. It was part catch up, part exploration, part jam session with an old friend, Jade Teta. The common threads throughout each topic we covered were making sense and meaning out of ourselves, life, and the world. Jade shared why he hates the term "vulnerability" for men, and what he finds helpful instead. We talked about openness, flexibility, and perspectives on spirituality and power. He also shared some sage advice he received from his mom during a time of great suffering in his life, how he constructed his personal honor code, and the importance of creating a legacy. It was so so good. You might want to listen to it more than once. xo, E
About Jade Teta:
Dr. Jade Teta is an integrative physician, author and sought after expert in the realm of metabolism and self-development. He spent the last 25 years immersed in the study of strength and conditioning, hormonal metabolism and the psychology of change and success. He is the founder and creator of the international health and fitness company, Metabolic Effect, and the author of several books including the best sellers, Metabolic Effect Diet and Metabolic Aftershock. He has also contributed both, the exercise and sports nutrition chapters, to The Textbook Of Natural Medicine.
In this episode, Jade shares:
1. Social MVPs
2. Living your way into the answers
3. The relationship between longing, yearning, and desire
Today’s sermon is inspired by Brené Brown’s most recent book, Braving the Wilderness. There’s a whole chapter called Speak Truth to Bullshit. Be Civil. In this episode I’m going to focus mostly on the speak truth to bullshit part, next Sunday we’ll get into the be civil piece. They are both super important and intricately connected.
In a time when authenticity is a super hot topic, I want to call attention today to one of the number one threats to authenticity and that is Bullshit. Brené Brown does an exquisite job in this chapter of her book in helping us understand exactly what bullshit is, when and why we do it, how we can stop ourselves, AND address it in others - with civility.
It’s so good, I read to you a lot in this episode and insert my own reflections. I also highly recommend checking out the book for deeper context. xo, E
Today's interview is probably one of the most gentle conversations I've ever had about some seriously charged topics - race, social justice, boundaries, capacity, positions of power, and more. The nature of the conversation totally speaks to how our guest, Andréa Ranae Johnson shows up in the world - with tons of compassion, curiosity, and commitment to contributing to solutions and better systems. In the interview we talked about the larger system we're all part of, and all of the identities we hold. We talked about the sense of care we need to have for ourselves as women (and humans) during these intense times. And we explored how to have our needs and wants met, to not only be OK, but to thrive. Enjoy!
About Andréa Ranae Johnson:
Andréa Ranae is a vision-led facilitator and coach who believes that together, we rise. She is deeply committed to doing her part in cultivating a world that works for everyone and does so by placing her work at the intersections of personal growth, social justice and conscious business.
As the creator of Coaching as Activism, she supports people doing transformative work to deepen their impact by taking a critical look at how their work and lives are connected to social change. As the co-founder of Whole / Self Liberation, she offers and uplifts practical tools, resources and wisdom for those who want to make change happen in their lives and communities. As a coach and consultant, she works with entrepreneurs, businesses and organizations that want to be more inclusive and impactful do so through their approach to leadership, their marketing and their company culture. She's a huge fan of #blackgirlmagic, sunsets and veggie burritos.
In this episode, Andréa shares:
1. Becoming aware of when and how we cause harm
2. Expanding your capacity while staying in your lane
3. How fast things move online
A study back in 2011 revealed that we are bombarded with the equivalent of 174 newspapers a day. That’s 5x as much information since 1986. And that was 6 years ago.
Our responsibilities and stressors are off the charts. A lot of what doesn’t work in our cultural, social, environmental and political systems is breaking down before our very eyes, without viable new solutions in sight, let alone in place yet. AND all of that feels extra scary because of the amount of images, articles and videos we see about it online every single day.
The bottom line is in spite of all our advances in the 21st century, it’s easier than ever to be overstressed, over worked, over tired, overwhelmed, and overconsumed. The good news is, even with life’s challenges and complexities - it’s possible to unconsume yourself, and to tend to your mental, emotional, physical, spiritual and energetic health in a way that makes 21st century living way more manageable - even fun. That's what today's Sunday Sermon is all about.
Today's guest was my roommate at an event earlier this year and I instantly fell in love with her. She's the type of person you feel instantly comfortable and welcomed with. Jill Wesley is a professional speaker coach, an expert on messaging, and truly a brilliant and incredible woman. In this interview we talked about messaging and communication in the context of corporate environments, the TEDx stage, and everyday life, no matter what it is that you do. Jill shares how speaking is a soul bearing exercise, and how to connect big ideas and hone in on your values. We also explored refinement in a few different areas of life from the difference between constructive feedback and personal attacks, how resiliency is not a constant thing, and focusing on essential relationships. We ran the gamut on a ton of interesting topics in this conversation - enjoy and share it up!
About Jill Wesley:
Jill Wesley is the Pro Speaker Coach and she's taught the Science + Soul of Speaking ™ for 25 years. She works with business leaders, entrepreneurs, experts, authors, speakers and trainers who are the real deal. She helps speakers in the fields of leadership, health and wellness, technology, environmental protection, media, education, relationships, sports, entertainment and social justice.
Jill is the speaker coach for TEDxSanFrancisco and she's trained speakers for multiple TEDx events. Jill has trained and coached over 80,000 executives and high-performing employees in some of the world's top companies and institutions (LinkedIn, Twitter, Square, Adobe, NetApp, Cisco, Stanford Law School, NFL Players Association, Johns Hopkins University and Panasonic, to name a few). As a speaker, she's delivered more than 300 keynotes in all 50 states and in 25 countries. She's been the "secret weapon" for leaders who give major keynotes on massive stages (TEDx, Wisdom 2.0, Women@Google, NPR, and global corporate and industry conferences). Jill received her M.A. in Speech Communication from the Steinhardt School of Culture, Education and Human Development at NYU and she taught Communication and Management for California State University, Long Beach. She helps leaders ignite a movement and change the world through TEDx talks and signature keynotes.
In this episode, Jill shares:
1. Identifying the messages you got growing up and checking in on how well you lived them or not
2. If a message is for everyone it's not for anyone
3. Turning point moments
In today's sermon, I'm sharing an experience I had recently that has two parts and a story from a book I’m reading. The two parts of my personal story have to do with facing my own shadow, and finding deeper forgiveness for a situation I thought I had forgiven thoroughly because I had be working on forgiving the situation for more than an entire year already, yet I discovered, there was still more to forgive. The story from the book is about unconditional forgiveness. This episode is about depth, possibility, and liberation through one of the most timeless and loving practices there is. Enjoy.