This is it, ya'll! It's the wrap up episode for the EMBODIED Self Love series.
There were some listener questions about boundaries that I didn't get to last week, I'm answering those in this episode. And aside from that, I want to spend this last episode on self love anchoring in what we've discussed so far and tying it all together.
And I want to leave you with some reminders and a prayer.
There’s no going back after this.
If you’ve listened to the whole series, you’ve been activated towards self love in a direction you can’t slide back from.
You may have better days than others, but there is a higher understanding now, your new standards have been activated, along with your worthiness, acceptance and everything else we discussed here.
You can’t forget what you heard about self respect. It’s in you now.
You’re aware.
You’re willing.
And of course you are capable.
Here is the prayer I would like to cover you in - I pray that from this day forward self love is a new set and return point for you - a new home frequency, even if it’s a little shaky right now… everything that stands tall and strong requires its foundation to be built, and that’s what we’ve done here. You are love in a body. You are worthy of love - from yourself, from life and from others. And you are already loved more than you know. May you feel this, know this and live this… every single day for the rest of your lifetimes. Amen.
In the eighth episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:
[5:42] My prayer for you for this day forward
[6:44] A mantra about self love
[8:55] Why you need to develop a practice around self love
[12:27] How self love assists in trauma healing
[17:18] Claiming your part in the revolution
[18:30] How to deal with a rude family member
[25:08] Why boundaries have to be flexible and agile
[32:21] What the next mini series will be centered around
Resources:
Embodied Self Love Mini Course
EP 338: How To Love Yourself More in 2020 Part I
EP 342: Building Self Trust – How To Trust Yourself
EP 344: Boundaries and Self Love – How They Go Hand In Hand
EP 320: The Law Of Attraction Isn’t Real with Shanda Catrice
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About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto
Since 2013 I’ve been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.
In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.
The show runs in seasons now and this season we’re focusing on my EMBODIED Self Love Framework.
We’ll be looking at Self Awareness, Self Knowledge, Self Acceptance, Self Trust and Self Respect - with a bonus episode on Boundaries as well.
If you’ve been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren’t practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you’re feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.
This is episode 7 in an 8 episode series on Self Love.
This episode is all about boundaries and what it has to do with self love. Specifically, how boundaries are an expression of all the components of my EMBODIED Self Love Framework:
Boundaries are a responsible way of engaging with what you can control in a healthy, useful way.
Boundaries evolve over time, when you first start setting boundaries, they may be more like barries, it’s ok, over time your boundaries will become both rock solid and without you having to be rigid or militant about it.
Above all else boundaries are rooted in kindness, compassion and are meant to give you permission to live a joyful, love-filled life.
Now, I can hype up boundaries all day but we all know, they're challenging. So in today's episode I offer a lot of context and perspective on boundaries.
Here's what I covered:
...and more
In the seventh episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:
[6:14] How people are really different right now
[7:23] How setting boundaries evolves over time
[10:01] What happens to us when we don’t set boundaries
[14:10] My experience of starting over from scratch on social media
[16:59] Examples of boundaries you could set up for yourself
[19:39] Having boundaries around certain types of people
[25:15] Saying “no” when you mean no and saying “yes” when you mean yes
[30:40] Why you should pay attention to the word “should”
[35:27] How boundaries isn’t about being rigid or policing people all the time
[37:27] What having boundaries will do for you
[40:25] What energetic boundaries is and why they’re important
Resources:
Embodied Self Love Mini Course
EP 288: Advice For The Sex And Love You Crave With Eva Clay
EP 293: Deeper Dating With Ken Page
EP 147: Terri Cole On Real Love Revolution
Dance of Anger, The: A Woman's Guide To Changing The Patterns Of Intimate Relationships
Energetic Boundaries: How to Stay Protected and Connected in Work, Love, and Life
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About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto
Since 2013 I’ve been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.
In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.
We are getting into the last part of the EMBODIED Self Love Framework in this episode - Self Respect.
Self respect is where the other four parts of the EMBODIED Self Love Framework get integrated.
When you are more self aware you discover what you need to know, when you know yourself better, you can accept yourself more, when you are coming from self awareness, knowledge and acceptance, it's easier to trust yourself and when you're doing all four, self respect just makes sense.
In this episode you'll hear me talk about:
...and more
In the sixth episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:
[6:47] How people pleasing can be alchemized through self respect
[8:37] Why you need to honor yourself
[11:45] Why you should reserve the right to change your mind
[14:46] What compassion really is
[16:27] Anchoring into your truth and how this alignment will be meaningful to you
[17:36] Why you should steer clear of self abandonment
[21:39] Indicators of self abandonment to watch out for
[23:41] Being more intentional about who and how your loving
[24:01] Reflection questions to ask yourself around self respect
[30:20] Why it’s important to acknowledge how different we all are
Resources I mentioned in the episode:
Embodied Self Love Mini Course
Instagram Post
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About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto
Since 2013 I’ve been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.
In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.
The show runs in seasons now and this season we’re focusing on my EMBODIED Self Love Framework.
We’ll be looking at Self Awareness, Self Knowledge, Self Acceptance, Self Trust and Self Respect - with a bonus episode on Boundaries as well.
If you’ve been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren’t practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you’re feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.
I have been teaching about self trust for over seven years now and for this episode, the self trust teaching wanted to come through a bit differently. No doubt, the reason is that trust is harder when tragedy and trauma are rampant because we get pulled into the WHY question? It doesn’t make sense. And it’s not supposed to.
And during these current times we're living through there's a lot of that.
So we question a lot of valid things but can get overly distracted by them. This is why we need to ‘"insource” more than we "outsource" and strengthen our direct connection to the Divine (God, Source, Universe, etc) --and that is the part of the teaching I had to integrate more deeply into today's exploration of self trust
The only intermediary we need is our soul.
In today's episode I cover:
...and more
I get much deeper into the nuance of these things in the EMBODIED Self Love Mini Course - so if you are working on self trust and want the extra support - check it out here.
In the fifth episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:
[4:07] How trust has been an integral part of my body of work as it’s evolved
[5:31] How it takes time to develop self trust
[7:22] Why you can’t separate self trust from trust in the divine
[9:56] Examining what part of yourself your trusting vs. not trusting
[12:26] How fostering a broader trust in the divine will help your self trust
[14:58] One of my biggest mantras during some of the hardest times of my life
[17:15] How trusting yourself helps you trust other people
[20:40] Minding your own business and not inserting yourself in other people’s business
[24:18] Cultivating more energy to be more trusting, open to things that are worthy of you
[25:35] How trust requires surrender and the ability to let go
[27:44] Considering how your choices might impact other people and the world around you
[31:03] Why you shouldn’t hold yourself to impossible standards around things you couldn’t have known
[31:24] Working through the fear of trusting yourself when criticism is present
[33:10] How fear blocks people’s ability to trust in themselves
Resources:
Rashunda Tramble’s Instagram Post
Energy Hygiene Resource
Embodied Self Love Mini Course
Get your copy of the Untame Yourself book on Amazon!
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About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto
Since 2013 I’ve been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.
In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.
The show runs in seasons now and this season we’re focusing on my EMBODIED Self Love Framework.
We’ll be looking at Self Awareness, Self Knowledge, Self Acceptance, Self Trust and Self Respect - with a bonus episode on Boundaries as well.
If you’ve been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren’t practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you’re feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.
How do you accept yourself?
Why is self acceptance important?
What does it feel like to have self acceptance?
These are some of the questions we're answering in today's EMBODIED Self Love series episode.
We've already covered the first two principles of the EMBODIED Self Love Framework - Self Awareness and Self Knowledge - and now it's time for Self Awareness.
In today's episode I cover:
...and more
In the fourth episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:
[3:12] Why I rearranged the framework as I was creating it
[5:47] How you can’t have deep embodied love without acceptance
[9:40] How 2020 has been an incredible training ground for self acceptance
[12:54] Questions that are always asked during akashic record readings
[15:23] Why you need to unlearn and discern to get self acceptance and fulfill your purpose
[18:43] How self love allows you to respond with forgiveness and compassion
[19:27] Why the topic of forgiveness can be triggering for many
[22:44] How to accept things that you feel shame about
[28:38] The topic of white fragility and how we feel fragile when shame is present
[33:47] How I use mantras in my work and life
[39:01] Breaking the harmful cycle around shame in your body
[44:20] How I built practices and movement around loving, connecting and healing
[46:18] Learning to appreciate your body for more than just how it looks
Resources:
Embodied Self Love Mini Course
Akashic Records Readings
White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism
The Embodied Living Center
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Was this episode helpful for you today? I’d love to know what quote or lesson touched your soul. Let me know in the comments below OR share the episode on Instagram, tag me your stories @elizabethdialto or send me a DM!
About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto
Since 2013 I’ve been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.
In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.
The show runs in seasons now and this season we’re focusing on my EMBODIED Self Love Framework.
We’ll be looking at Self Awareness, Self Knowledge, Self Acceptance, Self Trust and Self Respect - with a bonus episode on Boundaries as well.
If you’ve been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren’t practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you’re feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.
How well do you really know yourself?
And why does self knowledge matter so much?
In order to do any of the work of EMBODIED self love, you really do need to know yourself.
You need to know things [for starters] like:
Life is cyclical. There are phases and changes, which means you should feel free to be someone different than you were yesterday. I always say, "I reserve the right to change my mind." And I can tell you from living that way it won’t always please others. But staying true to who you are moment to moment is a radical act of self love.
Real, deep,EMBODIED self love requires ACTIONS behaviors, habits and STANDARDS!
Self knowledge is the place where we tune into all of that.
In today's episode I cover:
...and more
In the third episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:
[2:41] Why you need to give yourself room to be who you are right now and room to become someone else
[4:46] Why you don’t need everyone to like you
[5:30] The 5 main values I use for discernment of everything in my life
[7:34] Reasons why I often couple values and priorities together
[10:48] Why you don’t have to take on other peoples priorities
[12:15] Why I don’t fully subscribe to any one personality test or zodiac sign
[15:07] What I realized about making impulsive and intuitive choices
[18:41] Learning to cultivate internal authority
[19:10] The aspects of you versus the whole you and an exercise you can do
[23:38] Discovering what your actual truth is
[28:03] Why I want you to know the value of self knowledge
[31:15] Thoughts on why you should question everything
Resources I mentioned in the episode:
Embodied Self Love Mini Course
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
Aycee Brown’s Instagram
Erin Claire Jones’ Instagram
Clare Marie Edgeman’s Instagram
EP251: What Is Human Design With Chetan Parkyn
The Embodied Movement Center
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How was this episode for you?
Was this episode helpful for you today? I’d love to know what quote or lesson touched your soul. Let me know in the comments below OR share the episode on Instagram, tag me your stories @elizabethdialto or send me a DM!
About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto
Since 2013 I’ve been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.
In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.
The show runs in seasons now and this season we’re focusing on my EMBODIED Self Love Framework.
We’ll be looking at Self Awareness, Self Knowledge, Self Acceptance, Self Trust and Self Respect - with a bonus episode on Boundaries as well.
If you’ve been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren’t practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you’re feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.
What does self awareness mean?
How do you improve self awareness?
Is self awareness a skill?
Is self awareness hyphenated?
These are the types of things people search for when it comes to the meaning of self awareness (that last one was included to be funny, but it's actually the number one search result - go figure!)
This is episode 2 in the EMBODIED Self Love podcast series and today we're getting into the first step in the framework - Self Awareness.
Self awareness helps us relate to ourselves and observe how we are actually showing up in life.
It’s a consistent, mindful practice of observing and being honest with ourselves. It's not just about how we think and what our intentions are, it's also about the impact we’re having on others, ourselves, and how things are going through our experiences, behaviors and choices.
Self awareness means calling attention to yourself, with purpose. It’s not always easy or pleasant. Sometimes you won’t like what you see. But when you commit to observing yourself for the sake of knowing, trusting, accepting and respecting yourself, you can do it with more objectivity than scrutiny. Something I've been teaching my clients and students for years is that awareness comes before acceptance and acceptance precedes improvement.
In today's episode I cover:
In the second episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:
[2:55] Why you can’t improve a thing before first accepting it
[4:24] How a baseline level of self love will make the hard things easier
[4:48] What self awareness truly is and what it helps you to recognize
[7:08] The three things you want to start observing for self awareness
[10:38] Engaging with “feeling all of the feels” to connect and speak with your embodied language
[13:11] The differences between a response and a reaction
[14:58] What it means to be flooded and my experience with this trauma response
[16:53] Why you should avoid self deception
[20:22] How self awareness is an ongoing, lifelong practice
Resources:
Elizabeth Gilbert Instagram Post
Embodiment Bible
Feelings Wheel
Embodied Self Love Mini Course
Get your copy of the Untame Yourself book on Amazon!
How was this episode for you?
Was this episode helpful for you today? I’d love to know what quote or lesson touched your soul. Let me know in the comments below OR share the episode on Instagram, tag me your stories @elizabethdialto or send me a DM!
About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto
Since 2013 I’ve been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.
In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.
The show runs in seasons now and this season we’re focusing on my EMBODIED Self Love Framework.
We’ll be looking at Self Awareness, Self Knowledge, Self Acceptance, Self Trust and Self Respect - with a bonus episode on Boundaries as well.
If you’ve been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren’t practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you’re feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.
Do you see people talking about self love all the time and wonder, "But how?"
Or get caught up in memes that sound smart or profound but don't get how to actually apply them?
That's how a lot of people approach self love - like it's a thing you will eventually attain if you just focus on it - but here in the EMBODIED Living world, we know it takes more than that. This is why people call me a practical mystic. I'm into all kinds of energy work, psychological study, archetypes, mythology and esoteric shit - AND!! We're still people. We need to be able to apply what we're learning, integrate it into our lives and actually use it to shift, change, grow, heal and evolve.
This is the first episode in an 8-episode series where I'll be guiding you through my EMBODIED Self Love Framework. The framework will help you with self-confidence, embodiment, real love, loving yourself, trusting yourself, accepting yourself, cultivating healthy love in relationships and so much more.
We'll take a really thorough look at what it means to have self love, how to develop self love, examples of self love, and why self love is so important.
Self love touches so many areas of our lives when we actively engage in it. Like bell hooks teaches, love is something you do, it's a verb.
This first episode in the EMBODIED Self Love series covers:
In the first episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:
[2:52] The focus of this season around the EMBODIED self love framework that I developed
[3:12] The 5 principles of my framework
[7:11] Common self love teachings that I don’t agree with and misconceptions about them
[10:13] How developing self love isn’t just a state
[11:15] Why you should be curious when you have resistance to something
[14:04] The importance of self awareness and being mindful of how you’re showing up
[15:19] How self knowledge answers the question: Who am I and how am I built?
[17:27] Why you need gentleness for yourself and others
[19:13] The reasons that self trust is critical for following your inner truth
[20:15] How you can’t have love without self respect
[21:05] Where I am at on my own self love journey
[24:25] A talk I participated in that inspired the Embodied Self Love Mini Course
Resources:
Embodied Movement Studio
Embodiment Bible
Get your copy of the Untame Yourself book on Amazon!
How was this episode for you?
Was this episode helpful for you today? I’d love to know what quote or lesson touched your soul. Let me know in the comments below OR share the episode on Instagram, tag me your stories @elizabethdialto or send me a DM!
About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto
Since 2013 I’ve been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.
In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.
The show runs in seasons now and this season we’re focusing on my EMBODIED Self Love Framework.
We’ll be looking at Self Awareness, Self Knowledge, Self Acceptance, Self Trust and Self Respect - with a bonus episode on Boundaries as well.
If you’ve been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren’t practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you’re feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.
Last week, an acquaintance of mine, Kelly Watkins reached out on Instagram to share a post with me about how she'd be diagnosed with incurable blood cancer and asked if I'd be willing to have a conversation about death and dying on the podcast.
She herself has worked on both sides of life as a nurse in labor and delivery, a hospice nurse, and then outside of western medicine as a death doula, so she has a lot of perspectives to share.
Of course, I said yes and this episode is that conversation.
One of the things we both noticed about midway through the conversation was that we could have gone deeper and tapped into more of the things that people prefer not to talk about AND we felt a sensitivity around the current climate around COVID-19 and the Coronavirus and the mortality and death we're about to be confronted with across the globe - so we trusted that where we did go was perfect.
A few of the threads we pulled in our chat were: being a mother of five under quarantine right now with just one of her babies, what matters most to her right now and why, definitions of grace and the presence of grace in her current experience and experiences she's had with clients and patients over the years, death as a calling, how life and death are connected, how important it is to talk about death, how we need to find ways to be more comfortable with this and more.
As I'm feeling more compelled to approach interviews this year - we just hit record and went until we felt complete, which was about 90 minutes.
I hope you'll be transformed and moved by this tender conversation, share it with loved ones and use it to spark your own inquiries and explorations of your relationship to death and dying and any shifts you may want to make around that.
Big love,
E
For more information and for full show notes, head to http://untameyourself.com/337
Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto aims to cut through the noise and ignorance of our current culture by exploring the truths of a diverse range of incredible voices. From authors, artists, creatives and educators, to activists, speakers and those in various scientific and esoteric fields - our guests hail from cultures and countries all over the world. The main intention here is to contribute to creating a kinder, gentler, more curious, collaborative, reverent world where people respect each others’ background experiences and truths and they learn to trust in themselves and life and recognize that we really do need each other. If you love what you hear here and you find it useful and inspiring the best way to show your appreciation is to share the episode, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from.
This is not the typical conversation about perfectionism, y'all, and I am warning you upfront, that you'll probably want to listen to it at least three or four times.
Today my guest is my dear friend Jessica Fish, who is also (and she would likely not own up to this...) a genius.
Her big truth was around the importance of community and external affirmation.
From there we talked about practicing radical encouragement in your relationships and how we cannot rely on self-regulation alone. We talked about the myth of "inconveniencing people," how we need to be honest about our bandwidth and over-giving tendencies, and all the offshoots of perfectionism like overachieving, having unreasonably high standards for ourselves, and the trap of "high performance."
She also explained how all of this keeps us in individual mindsets which keep us upholding dominant cultural narratives and norms.
She shared an exercise with us that she uses in her Divesting from Perfectionism workshops that literally changes people's lives on the spot, and she walked me through the fantasy of the "Ideal Self" that many of us have, and how it harms us.
We also explored what being in community with people who will hold you compassionately accountable and how we can all leverage the things we're really good at as our contribution to dismantling systems of oppression.
It's a juicy and meaty conversation.
Enjoy!
For more information and for full show notes, head to http://untameyourself.com/336
Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto aims to cut through the noise and ignorance of our current culture by exploring the truths of a diverse range of incredible voices. From authors, artists, creatives and educators, to activists, speakers and those in various scientific and esoteric fields - our guests hail from cultures and countries all over the world. The main intention here is to contribute to creating a kinder, gentler, more curious, collaborative, reverent world where people respect each others’ background experiences and truths and they learn to trust in themselves and life and recognize that we really do need each other. If you love what you hear here and you find it useful and inspiring the best way to show your appreciation is to share the episode, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from.
It's our first crack at the new format and I'm so excited to share it with you!
In this episode you get to be a fly on the wall during some Q+A at one of my Wild Soul Movement Weekend Workshops. At the end of each day, I open it up for questions about anything and everything. Because attendees have been doing healing and embodiment work all day, their questions are thoughtful, nuanced, and deep.
In this session I answer two different questions about navigating adult friendships: The first is around how to support a friend who is stuck and listening to them talk about the same things over and over again has become draining because you don't now how to help them. The other is about how to repair or move forward in a friendship after there's been a fracture, issue or confrontation.
I also got into healing the mother wound, how to cultivate play in your life- especially if you were a parentified child or feel like you have so many responsibilities now, there's no room for playfulness in adulthood. Lastly, I answered a really fun question about my favorite things to include in online dating profiles and the kinds of questions I like to ask potential dates.
Enjoy and let me know what you think!
For more information and for full show notes, head to http://untameyourself.com/335
Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto aims to cut through the noise and ignorance of our current culture by exploring the truths of a diverse range of incredible voices. From authors, artists, creatives and educators, to activists, speakers and those in various scientific and esoteric fields - our guests hail from cultures and countries all over the world. The main intention here is to contribute to creating a kinder, gentler, more curious, collaborative, reverent world where people respect each others’ background experiences and truths and they learn to trust in themselves and life and recognize that we really do need each other. If you love what you hear here and you find it useful and inspiring the best way to show your appreciation is to share the episode, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from.
Wild ones...very excited to share four points with you today in the realm of Love, Dating, Sex + Intimacy.
With Valentine's Day coming up, whether you're single or in a relationship the artificial pressure can get intense. The four things we're getting into today could help you navigate that. And they're also incredibly valuable regardless of the time of year.
The Love, Dating, Sex + Intimacy points I'm covering today are:
Enjoy, share, find me on Instagram or shoot an email over to hello@wildsoulmovement.com and let me know what you think or what resonates for you!
xo,
E
For more information and for full show notes, head to http://untameyourself.com/334
Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto aims to cut through the noise and ignorance of our current culture by exploring the truths of a diverse range of incredible voices. From authors, artists, creatives and educators, to activists, speakers and those in various scientific and esoteric fields - our guests hail from cultures and countries all over the world. The main intention here is to contribute to creating a kinder, gentler, more curious, collaborative, reverent world where people respect each others’ background experiences and truths and they learn to trust in themselves and life and recognize that we really do need each other. We post a new interview every Monday and if you want to keep up with the show notes and quotes from our guests you can follow me on Instagram. If you love what you hear here and you find it useful and inspiring the best way to show your appreciation is to share the episode, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from.
I'm always excited to share guests with you, but this week, I finally got my dear friend Staci Jordan Shelton on the show. It took me over a year...maybe longer. And you will see, it was worth the wait!
Staci's big truth was that she doesn't let people gaslight themselves. From there we discussed what gaslighting actually is and how it functions since it's a term that gets thrown around a lot.
We talked about the importance of context, the difference between shame and accountability and why conflict isn't bad; and we got into why cancel culture isn't the way, but ignoring patterns of behavior doesn't help people get free either.
We also touched on implementation and how sustained change can only happen over time, the lies that hold people hostage, the importance of having hobbies and something I've been thinking about so much in the last year - what it's like to be the strong friend and how to navigate getting the support you need, too, even if people don't think you need it!
Enjoy, share, and let us know what you think!
xo,
E
For more information and for full show notes, head to http://untameyourself.com/333
Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto aims to cut through the noise and ignorance of our current culture by exploring the truths of a diverse range of incredible voices. From authors, artists, creatives and educators, to activists, speakers and those in various scientific and esoteric fields - our guests hail from cultures and countries all over the world. The main intention here is to contribute to creating a kinder, gentler, more curious, collaborative, reverent world where people respect each others’ background experiences and truths and they learn to trust in themselves and life and recognize that we really do need each other. We post a new interview every Monday and if you want to keep up with the show notes and quotes from our guests you can follow me on Instagram. If you love what you hear here and you find it useful and inspiring the best way to show your appreciation is to share the episode, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from.
In a recent podcast listener survey, a lot of you listed trauma and healing under topics you'd like to see explored more in 2020 on the show, so I hope you enjoy today's guest, Irene Lyon who is a nervous system expert and somatic practitioner!
Her big truth was that we're at a point in time where we have the science, research, practices and immediacy to heal deep stuff. We talked about what somatic work is, the difference between the parasympathetic and the sympathetic nervous systems and touched on Polyvagal Theory.
She helped me understand the difference between trauma trained and trauma informed - a very important distinction as we all consider practitioners, guides, teachers and coaches in various areas of our lives.
And we also got into neuroception, our sensitivity to safety or danger, common trauma responses that people might not realize is their trauma talking, and how we can value the health that IS present.
It's a great chat, you might want to listen more than once. Enjoy and share!
xo,
E
For more information and for full show notes, head to http://untameyourself.com/332
Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto aims to cut through the noise and ignorance of our current culture by exploring the truths of a diverse range of incredible voices. From authors, artists, creatives and educators, to activists, speakers and those in various scientific and esoteric fields - our guests hail from cultures and countries all over the world. The main intention here is to contribute to creating a kinder, gentler, more curious, collaborative, reverent world where people respect each others’ background experiences and truths and they learn to trust in themselves and life and recognize that we really do need each other. We post a new interview every Monday and if you want to keep up with the show notes and quotes from our guests you can follow me on Instagram. If you love what you hear here and you find it useful and inspiring the best way to show your appreciation is to share the episode, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from.
It's the final episode in the Journey Into the Wild Soul!!
If you've been tuning in over the last several weeks, you know we've covered all kinds of juicy things, from deep committed practice and the importance of integration, to surrender, releasing, trust, receptivity, passion, purpose, love, truth and how EMBODIMENT is one of the most effective ways to bring it all together and LIVE it.
Might sound like a tall order, but it's actually quite elegant and practical when you get down to it!
In today's episode rather than a year in a review or an entire preview of 2020, I've framed it in a way that integrates the immense reflection, integration and clarity December provided for me.
I have mentioned elsewhere that I was REALLY into moving into a new decade.
What I got really into was reflecting on who I had become, the lessons I had learned and the things, habits, people and etc I had completed with over that decade.
In that reflection were a few things that had to do with BEING SUPER HONEST WITH MYSELF about what has worked in the past and what actually honors who I am now.
It’s always exciting when new truths reveal themselves, and sometimes it’s also inconvenient, but that’s life isn’t it - the best choices are not always the easiest ones to follow or make.
When you are connected to your body, heart, soul and inner authority - you just know better than to ignore the nudges, though.
One last note - just because 2020 has begun, doesn’t mean you can't do this type of reflection yourself if you have yet to or find yourself with the desire after listening to this episode.
Enjoy and let me know what you think!
xo,
E
For more information and for full show notes, head to http://untameyourself.com/331
Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto aims to cut through the noise and ignorance of our current culture by exploring the truths of a diverse range of incredible voices. From authors, artists, creatives and educators, to activists, speakers and those in various scientific and esoteric fields - our guests hail from cultures and countries all over the world. The main intention here is to contribute to creating a kinder, gentler, more curious, collaborative, reverent world where people respect each others’ background experiences and truths and they learn to trust in themselves and life and recognize that we really do need each other. We post a new interview every Monday and if you want to keep up with the show notes and quotes from our guests you can follow me on Instagram. If you love what you hear here and you find it useful and inspiring the best way to show your appreciation is to share the episode, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from.