There's a crass saying about break ups that, "The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else." That's certainly one way to go (and I can't say I haven't tried it in the past!), but the route I chose after my most recent one was to zoom in on the experience and really look at how I co-created all the parts that made it not a good fit. It's humbling work, not always pleasant, but so worthwhile for the long term and today's guest has played a pivotal role in the process with me. Terri Cole is a fierce and loving friend, brilliant therapist and coach, and someone with an abundance of wisdom and experience to share. She is super grounded as her new tagline, "It's not magic, it's psychology" indicates, and we dove deep into really important topics smart, highly driven and achievement oriented women (and men) should all be aware of in relationships. From our subconscious drivers and downloaded relationship blueprints to high-functioning co-dependency and gas lighting, this conversation is a big one. Listen more than once and pay attention for the parts that make you want to shut it off because they hit so close to home. We'll be doing a follow up webinar on Jan 11 to go even deeper and take Q+A, too. The link to register for that call as well as some extra resources Terri provided are all in the show notes. Enjoy!
About Terri Cole:
Terri Cole, LCSW, founder and CEO of Live Fearless and Free, is a licensed psychotherapist, transformation coach, and an expert at turning fear into freedom by combining practical psychology, thought innovation, and harnessing the power of intention to create sustainable change.
In this episode, Terri shares:
1. Unraveling control and manipulation in relationships
2. Understanding gas lighting, transference and secondary gain so you can spot them from now on
3. Looking at why we attract less than optimal romantic partners so we can stop doing it
4. Quitting co-dependency