Ep 399: My Sacred Slut Summer

After spending most of my life exploring my sexuality through the lens of monogamy, I discovered a surprising truth about myself: I don’t actually want one romantic partner. This revelation led me to a new way of looking at my relationships and opened the door for me to finally explore non-monogamy.

I spent the last several months, which I dubbed my Sacred Slut Summer, intentionally exploring non-monogamy and how my intimate, romantic relationships can be sacred and fulfilling without being exclusive.

Choosing to explore love and intimacy through open relationships is a culmination of all my previous romantic experiences, and while some of those were better than others, each experience led me on this path to accepting the kind of love I find so much more satisfying - at least for now!

It’s also offered me a new opportunity to explore the kind of transparency and discernment that non-monogamy requires, and allowed me to lean into my interactions with the Divine and my self-love framework as I accept this new revelation in my romantic life.

I’m no expert on non-monogamy, but I hope you’ll find insights that you can take from my experiences and filter them into your own life and relationships, whether they are open, exclusive, or something else entirely.

In episode 399 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:

• [06:05] My first experience with my sexuality
• [08:25] How I’ve learned to appreciate all the lessons I’ve gained from my past intimate relationships
• [11:49] The differences between my conscious hoe phase and the more reckless promiscuity of my teens and twenties
• [13:40] How taking a break from dating taught me about experiencing intimacy and pleasure in a more sacred way
• [16:55] How I came to the revelation that I really didn’t want a partner
• [19:37] The sacred prostitute and my inspiration for my Sacred Slut Summer
• [26:01] Discovering the relational “nutrients” that I could only receive through intimate, romantic relationships
• [28:53] Redefining my views on non-monogamy
• [34:01] Why my relationship with my constellation of companions is so fulfilling right now
• [37:13] How this exploration fits into my self-love framework
• [40:48] The absolute, wildest story from my Sacred Slut Summer and the opportunity it offered to practice discernment 
• [43:56] How I offered opportunity to heal and repair the transparency and openness in this relationship
• [47:29]  Why I’m still not comfortable offering specific advice on this topic

For full show notes and resources, head to https://untameyourself.com/podcasts/399

 

About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto 

Since 2013 I’ve been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you  tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.

If you’ve been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren’t practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you’re feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.