This is not the typical conversation about perfectionism, y'all, and I am warning you upfront, that you'll probably want to listen to it at least three or four times.
Today my guest is my dear friend Jessica Fish, who is also (and she would likely not own up to this...) a genius.
Her big truth was around the importance of community and external affirmation.
From there we talked about practicing radical encouragement in your relationships and how we cannot rely on self-regulation alone. We talked about the myth of "inconveniencing people," how we need to be honest about our bandwidth and over-giving tendencies, and all the offshoots of perfectionism like overachieving, having unreasonably high standards for ourselves, and the trap of "high performance."
She also explained how all of this keeps us in individual mindsets which keep us upholding dominant cultural narratives and norms.
She shared an exercise with us that she uses in her Divesting from Perfectionism workshops that literally changes people's lives on the spot, and she walked me through the fantasy of the "Ideal Self" that many of us have, and how it harms us.
We also explored what being in community with people who will hold you compassionately accountable and how we can all leverage the things we're really good at as our contribution to dismantling systems of oppression.
It's a juicy and meaty conversation.
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